“This Is Not The Story You Think It Is: A Season of Unlikely Happiness”

A Memoir by Laura Munson

Laura Munson's Memoire: How it All Began, and How it Touched the Lives of Millions.

The short version of this memoir went viral in the New York Times Modern Love column.

The book came first, and while the entry point is a marital crisis, the essay, and the book, are ultimately about becoming aware of your thought patterns and learning about how they serve and sabotage us.

“A lot of people read that essay and the book worldwide, as it was published in eight countries. What I heard most of all was this:

Thank you for helping me know that I’m not alone.

I think that’s because the book isn’t really about marriage at all. It’s about how to find emotional responsibility and liberation during a time of great pain. It’s not a strategy for how to stay married. It’s a philosophy about how to live your life.”

Written in the midst of personal upheaval, the book examines what it means to take responsibility for one’s own inner life against the odds. It is about choosing how to intentionally meet reality without abandoning oneself. 

For many readers, this book marked their first encounter with Laura’s work.

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Marianne Williamson, author of “The Age of Miracles,” and “A Return to Love“

“Laura Munson takes the spiritual stuff and the personal stuff and the love stuff and the pain stuff and she brews them all together in a very fun and touching memoir. I’m a fan. This is a wonderful book.”

Elle Magazine

“Munson captures, with deepening poignancy and surprisingly good humor, the practical impossibility of remaining jujitsu-cool—denying anger and self-doubt—when her world appears to be coming apart at the seams.”

Dr. Christiane Northrup, author of “Women’s Bodies, Women’s Wisdom”

“Ever hear about the power of positive thinking? Ever wonder what it looks like in real life? Ever run up against some rocky places in your relationship that scare the crap out of you? If you answered yes, read this book. Now. I for one devoured it in 24 hours. It’s pure real-life illumination.”

Anita Shreve, author of “The Pilot’s Wife”

“This is Not the Story You Think It Is” is true to its title. The book took me by surprise. I read it in one sitting and loved Munson’s tone, wit, wisdom and writing.”

Linda Sivertsen, author of “Lives Charmed” and “Generation Green”

“I cried and laughed so hard through these pages-often at the same time that I thanked God I was alone in the privacy of my bedroom. Laura Munson is my new heroine. The wisest, most soulful, kick-ass friend any woman who’s ever had grenades launched at her self-esteem or her belief in love could ask for. Read every page. To the end. And let it heal you to the bone.”

Melanie Gideon, author of "The Slippery Year: A Meditation on Happily Ever After"

“Let me tell you what this book is about. This is a book about saying yes. It’s the story of Laura Munson’s alchemical ability to create abundance and bounty in the face of scarcity and abandonment—no small triumph. Munson’s account of the summer her marriage nearly fell apart is filled with gems big and small, from her Italian grandmother’s cooking advice (don’t stir backwards . . . you don’t want to undo the sauce) to her commitment not to suffer. Munson is a wonderful guide-wise, brave, and tenaciously honest.”

David Baker, Poetry Editor of “The Kenyon Review,” author of “Never Ending Birds”

“Laura Munson’s powerful and buoyant book gives us wisdom in generous slices. But it is Munson’s abilities as a storyteller that show us how to discover how to find and feel the real wisdom that may arise from our lives, as messy and heart-breaking as they may be. Woman, wife, mother, neighbor–this fine writer converts her own life’s journeys into a series of vignettes so focused and compelling, so heart-breaking, sometimes so funny, that they resound with the force of parables.”

 

Leif Peterson, author of “Catherine Wheels” and “Normal Like Us”

“It’s rare to read a story that is so deeply personal, so fraught with heartache, so nakedly honest, and at the same time infused with such astute wisdom. In a world that is increasingly disposable, plastic, where our self-worth is so often determined by external factors, Laura Munson has served up a whopping portion of sanity. This book has the potential to start a cultural revolution.”

David James Duncan, author of “The Brothers K” and “God Laughs & Plays”

“With amiability, wit, and a modicum of self-pity, Laura Munson’s memoir reminded me of the twenty-one jars of organic tomato sauce she and her children hand-made. A chapter is like a jar lid: if it doesn’t pop as the contents cool, the seal is faulty and the sauce is worthless. Exhausted from their all-day effort, mother and kids sipped hot chocolates and listened as twenty-one jars cooled. To their satisfaction, they counted twenty-one distinct pops. In reading this brave memoir I counted about the same.”

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An Excerpt From Laura's Memoir

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“I don’t love you anymore. I’m not sure I ever did.”

His words came at me like a speeding fist, like a sucker punch, yet somehow in that moment I was able to duck. And once I recovered and composed myself, I managed to say, “I don’t buy it.” Because I didn’t.

He drew back in surprise. Apparently, he’d expected me to burst into tears, to rage at him, to threaten him with a custody battle. Or beg him to change his mind….I really wanted to fight. To rage. To cry. But I didn’t.
Instead, a shroud of calm enveloped me, and I repeated those words: “I don’t buy it.”

Read The Original Essay Published in The New York Times "Modern Love" Column

“Those Aren’t Fighting Words, Dear”

 

New York Times Modern Love Those Aren't Fighting Words Dear by Laura Munson
Laura Munson Signing This isn't the story

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Laura Munson is a celebrated author and teacher, renowned for her insightful storytelling and transformative writing retreats. With a career highlighted by her New York Times and USA Today best-selling status, Laura has dedicated her life to exploring the depths of human experience through writing. She is the founder of Haven Writing Retreats in Montana, where she guides aspiring writers to find their voice and embrace their creative potential. Her work is a testament to the power of storytelling as a tool for personal growth and self-discovery. If you have a book that’s been sitting on your heart click below to learn about Laura’s Haven 1 Writing Retreat.

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